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Be Nice!

12/13/2021

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This was originally posted in November 2019. It resonates just as much now as we close out 2021. 
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I got a call from THE ELF ON THE SHELF yesterday. The conversation went something like this:
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Elf:  Hi. Listen, I’m kind of in a hurry, so I’m hoping you can help me get something out to remind people of what’s important.

Me:  Ok, what’s on your mind?

Elf:  Well, let’s just say that lately everywhere I look there seems to be a lot more naughty than nice. People are rude; smiles are few and far between, and taking the time to help one another seems to be out of style! I’m just exhausted!

Me:  What happened?

Elf:  Well, I was up high on a shelf at the grocery store and constantly I saw people racing to get in front of others in the checkout line. Then I hung out at the new office building downtown (where there’s a shelf at the welcome desk with a  great view), and I watched the people hurrying and purposely closing the elevator doors before anyone else could get in! And at night I was peeking around the merlot wines at your favorite restaurant, and I was really surprised to hear constant laughter as people made fun of other people as they walked by. I mean, seriously? What’s happened to NICE?

Just do this for me. And by the way … rather than your offering ‘9 steps’ or ‘4 tips’ or even ‘2 sure-fire ways’ to reduce stress this holiday season. Tell people to follow this advice and watch the changes.

I couldn’t help smiling.  This guy made a lot of sense. And so I promised Elf that I would send out a memo. So, here goes:
MEMO TO EVERYONE!
To:  Everyone
From: Everyone Else
Date: Today and Every day
Subject:  BE NICE

It has come to my attention that there has been a slacking off on BEING NICE.  Somehow common courtesy has been pushed aside to make room for iPhones, multitasking, and always being in a hurry.  This has caused a lot of hurt feelings and negative attitudes.

​As a result, I am encouraging all people to slow down and take some time to be considerate and kind to each other.  YOU be the one who smiles more often and treats people the way that you want to be treated.

Studies have shown that when people include random acts of kindness in their day, it gives  the brain a serotonin boost and results in a feeling of well being and satisfaction. The doer feels great, and the recipient is overcome with a ‘pay-it-forward’ attitude. The entire atmosphere changes.

Put this suggestion into effect immediately and make it a prominent part of your daily routine. It  will result in stronger friendships, more enjoyable activities and workplaces and may even increase your gifts at Holiday Time. 

This is just a hint from someone in the know.

Thanks for your cooperation,

The Elf on the Shelf           

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Have a great Holiday Season regardless of how you celebrate. Just be sure that whatever you are doing and whomever you are with, remember to BE NICE.

Do it for yourself – and for the Elf.

Loretta
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P.S. If you want to share some ‘nice’ that either you’ve done or seen, send me a note.  I’ll make sure it gets to the Elf.
#holidays #elfontheshelf #kindness #lifestrategies
2 Comments
Paula Kholos
12/15/2021 10:40:24 am

A woman in our neighborhood took it upon herself to single handedly help a family led by a single mother with five children (three of them hers, two whom she took in) who had lost everything last month in a middle of the night fire in their rental home. This woman spent every day finding furniture, clothing and everything else for the family, as well as raising money and spending a lot of her own money. She and her husband took a week off for a vacation where they drove 1000 miles in their old recreational vehicle. As they pulled into their driveway on Sunday, the transmission died. Yet this woman spent the rest of the day Sunday going around with the family picking up furniture in a truck. They were at my house at 9:30 Sunday night picking up a dining table and chairs! I know you are really talking more about just being nice to people on an everyday basis instead of being preoccupied with our phones, but I love telling people about this woman. By the way, she is always doing these kinds of things to help others. An angel lives amongst us.

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Loretta
12/15/2021 12:25:34 pm

Wow, what an amazing neighbor you have, Paula! Kindness comes in many sizes and actions. Thanks so much for sharing.

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